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So, as anyone who’s ever been to our house can attest, we have an excess of stuff. That’s basically what happens when you have four people, who are all essentially “fully-equipped” living in one house. Too much kitchenware, too many sitting things, etc. Fortunately for us, our excess isn’t all that excessive, as our two housemates don’t actually take up much of the common space – most of that is dominated by Ei-Nyung and my stuff. Still – we’ve got too much. At one point, we had three couches, two recliners, four other nice, padded chairs, two tables, and seven table-related chairs. For four people.

Now, I don’t at all have a Niralth-like minimalist sense – for the most part, I don’t mind having a variety of seating options, for instance. But today, I gave away a sit-up bench I haven’t used in years, and the brown couch I got from my parents, that I’ve had since I was quite young. I had a distinct emotional attachment to that couch, but the simple fact of the matter was that it had been relegated to a part of the house where it wasn’t getting much use, and the recent inheritance of two of my grandparents’ chairs meant that basically, we had way too much seating.

So, with a bit of sadness, I gave that away on Craigslist, to some people that needed a sofabed, and would use it. I’d rather it was used somewhere than not, here, so I’m happy that it’ll find more purpose, and utility in its lifetime. Same with the sit-up bench, without the weird emotional attachment.

There’s a lot of stuff we need to sort for a yard sale, or give away outright. I’d started doing that with shirts I was no longer wearing. There’s a clothing donation bin on the street near our house, and so I’d given away almost half my t-shirts. And I *still* have more shirts than I reasonably wear, so I’m sure the closet’s due for another culling sometime soon. It’s sort of strange – I’ve always worn t-shirts – I figured that was just the way it was. They’re extremely comfortable, cheap, and I’ve never been in a job where I’ve had a dress code. So, t-shirts were perfectly fine in every respect.

But recently, I’ve had a desire to switch to button-downed shirts – not polo shirts, I’m talking collared shirts that button from top to bottom. And I can’t for the life of me explain it, other than that I must care to some extent about the image I’m projecting to others. I think maybe it’s that I valued comfort uber alles, because it was in some sense a rebellion against what I’d imagined I was supposed to conform to as I grew up. But now, I’m in the game industry – everyone’s dressed like shit. You’ve got 40 year olds in ratty t-shirts, and they all think they’re still in their teens. And something about it’s sort of off-putting, almost.

It’s weird, because it’s not like, say, my dad, who dresses casually because he really enjoys it – it’s almsot like it’s an image that these people are trying to cultivate, that they’re hip, and “free.” So maybe part of me is rebelling against that – that the off-kilter thing to do would be to dress really *well*. Because frankly, the people at work would think it’s weird. And I don’t really need to conform, to be honest – my work does my talking for me.

It’s just weird, that I would have some desire to dress up in a suit, and go to a job where I sit in front of a computer all day, and never interact with any clients, or do any sort of outward-facing interaction. Eh, it’s all just style anyway.

8 comments

  1. casacaudill says:

    I actually find that button downs can be really comfortable. If you don’t tuck them in they breath much better than tshirts and often the fabric is lighter.

    There are many more options for button downs as well, to express whatever style you want, stuffy or otherwise.

  2. Angry Chad says:

    When I didn’t have to wear a tie to work, I found that I tended to dress up a bit more on my own time. Now that I wear a tie every day, it’s only t-shirts and jeans for me at home.

  3. Becky in Oakland says:

    There’ve been a couple of articles recently about aging hipsters who are clinging to their ratty t-shirts and faded denim in hopes of prolonging their youth. The appalling thing is that they’re paying $80 to buy t-shirts that are made to look that way and upwards of $300 to buy jeans that are worn “just so” – all to maintain that image.

  4. hapacheese says:

    While during the summer, it gets a bit warm for me to wear button-downs every day, I’ve definitely made much more of an effort to wear them more often.

    In my case, being in the corporate environment definitely is a factor (though most people dress relatively casually here), but it also helps with a sense of professionalism and generally “cleanliness.”

    And hell, a good button-down matches just as well with a pair of slacks as it does with a pair of ratty jeans…

  5. h says:

    I totally get the “desire to take it up a notch” in your clothing. I went through a really similar phase when I moved to LA, and my wardrobe now has almost no resemblance to my wardrobe three years ago.

    There are plenty of non-t-shirt but still comfortable and psuedo -or fully- casual options available. There are lots and lots of casual button downs, for example. Hell, even the difference between a high quality, fitted t-shirt and a Hanes Beefy T is noticeable to you and everyone you see.

    It’s a desire to be more clean and tailored, more nipped and tucked, more t’s crossed and i’s dotted. Inside and out. 🙂

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